My teen is no longer a child!

It is hard to see his children grow up. Especially today, then that entry into adolescence begins more and earlier. Let then the child empower themselves about continuing to put limits. Many children rushing in stretchers before being pubescent.. “Up to 9 or 10 years old, the authority works almost well. Then, they appear as […]

It is hard to see his children grow up. Especially today, then that entry into adolescence begins more and earlier. Let then the child empower themselves about continuing to put limits.

Many children rushing in stretchers before being pubescent..

“Up to 9 or 10 years old, the authority works almost well. Then, they appear as full-fledged persons and it is complicated, says Michel Fize, sociologist. Parents would like to keep a small. They live badly manifestations of autonomy. ‘. ”

Not easy, indeed, to no longer be watched with admiration, toil to obey, to feel old in one shot…

Find the good distanceIl is to accept the relationship evolve in order to find the right distance with his child growing up: “to parent a child and be the parent of a teen, this isn’t the same ‘occupation’,” he said..

Lest it escapes us leads often to maintain at all costs its authority. “Teenagers are willing obey, provided they understand the merits of what they are asked, nuance Michel Fize.” Persuade them, it is the basis for dialogue. “.”

To avoid blocking, there are interest to treat more in ‘big’ in little children, even if they have not yet acquired the reasoning of a great person. They aspire to what one speaks them bluntly and that on clearly them values…

“Justice, solidarity, respect for others, it convinces them. When these standards are embedded, you can release them the flange, trust them and give them responsibilities”, concludes Michel Fize..

New experiences and confrontations to the dangersL’age of new experiences and confrontations to the dangers of life makes them anxious adults…

“Risk taking begins as soon as the child begins to walk and is allowing it to grow. Keeping her child with itself to protect is not normal. You need to be violence”, says Marie-France Le Heuzey, psychiatrist…

Adolescence is just a continuation of a process begun long. Young people need moments outside their families, beaches of freedom, pocket money managed by themselves. Nonetheless, that it has the right, whatever they say, to worry for them…

“Teens often have the illusion that it can anything happen to them. They are not aware of the danger, he may even find it deliberately,”warns Dr. Le Heuzey..

We do not have all the same risk perception. If alcohol and drugs are consensus, it is not the same for two-wheelers or extreme sports. Parents bikers or those who practice climbing do not deny their children access to these activities…

If the rules to avoid hazardous situations vary, they must always be clearly stated. Just as the family tolerances concerning the sexual lives of teens: some parents agree to shelter their loves under their roof, some not..

“In all cases, parents remain free to express their opinion and to demand respect for the family environment,” insists Dr. Le Heuzey..

Need to be Rassureapres be entered with a bang in adolescence and having pestered against parental omnipotence, young adults sometimes have difficulty to take full independence.

Instability of romantic relationships, difficulty in finding stable employment, cost of housing, the situation does not encourage their flight. Returns “the nest” are not uncommon, the financial nudges non plus…

“These risks are that their social status is not clear, says Robert Ebguy, sociologist.” They no longer build their adult identity and are in demand for security. However the only place that remains safe is home to their parents. “.”

Attention to the return to the fold! An adult forced to linger at her parents or return may take taste to be pampered. Attention to the trap!

“Parents who are afraid of aging tend to maintain the next generation in the dependency to keep the illusion of their own youth,” warns Dr. Patrice Huerre, psychiatrist…

On the side of the young (and old) adults, the urge to regress is stronger that they perceive as threatening outside world. On the side of parents, although we protested against the abuse of their grand child, leaves itself easily back and we take care as when he was small: household in her room, laundry, meal preparation… until infantilize it, stifle it…

In the event of forced cohabitation, vigilance is required on hand. It is necessary to establish a relationship of adult to adult, aware of the duties of each and based on mutual respect…

The opinion of Dr. Francis Curtet, psychiatreL’ idea of his own death remains long something abstract. Children and adolescents do not believe they are going to die one day, it is too far for them, where the need to warn against risk catches. Is successively child, teenager and adult, but in reality it is a patchwork of all this…

Might curb their evolution if it prevents the children to take responsibilities. It is important to let them gradually to explore the outside world and make their choices. You can urge them to work, but it is up to them to decide their orientation to them to choose with whom and how they want to live…

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